Kim Beatson, Partner
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The Christmas period can prove a testing time for relationships. Financial pressures, prolonged periods with relatives and the traditional Christmas tipple can make the season a testing and stressful time for relationships. The marriage counselling service Relate reports an increase in telephone enquiries of between 50% and 280% in January each year.
Anthony Gold offers the following guidance on how to ensure that you enter the New Year with a relationship intact.
- Avoid placing unattainable expectations on family members and accept that tension is inevitable when so many people are crammed into one house. Relaxing and enjoying people's company is more important than delivering a banquet.
- Money is cited as one of the most common causes of disputes in relationships and the run up to Christmas can offer one of the most challenging periods of the year. Remember there is no obligation to spend money that you do not have to show how much you care. Plan a budget and stick to it.
- Research by Relate found that one in five couples believe that their partner drinks too much at Christmas. Whilst the holiday period may seem like a good time to indulge, excess alcohol will inevitably lead to arguments. Alcohol can shorten your temper and distort reason. This will not encourage domestic bliss.
- Christmas should be about everyone having fun. Make Christmas an opportunity to share the household chores with your partner so you spread the responsibilities equally.
- If you are feeling aggrieved, talk to your partner openly and patiently. Try to understand their position and be tolerant.
If you have concerns over the future of your relationship after the festive period, the family & divorce law team at Anthony Gold can help you look realistically at any serious issues. Email Kim Beatson or call 020 7940 4000 for further information.
